Know what must change. Know if it can. Know your next step.
Decide to Stay or Go with Confidence and Evidence
Get out of relationship limbo with a structured, data-backed decision framework (instead of gut feel).
Use the Stay or Go Decision System to get a clear personalized recommendation, plus a quantified plan, and next steps you can start immediately.
For a limited time, you get access to EVERYTHING for FREE!
Built from decades of research experience and after reviewing 100s of peer-reviewed studies and validated relationship measures.
(aka we did the research so you don’t have to).
RESEARCH-DRIVEN
Get out of your head and assess your relationship patterns using structured, validated factors, (not opinion, mood swings, or one bad week.)
STRUCTURED EVALUATION
Gain clarity in hours, not years, and avoid the costs of indecision, unnecessary therapy sessions, legal consultations, and/or burnout.
SAVE TIME & MONEY
With clear score explanations, evidence-based resources, and practical next steps so you know exactly what to do next.
NEXT STEPS INCLUDED
The most important answer you need is hiding in plain sight.
When you’re torn, your mind tends to do unhelpful things on repeat:
- replay the same fights, searching for certainty
- over-focus on the last argument (instead of the pattern)
- confuse guilt with love, fear with intuition, or hope with evidence
- outsource your decision to friends, family, therapists, or TikTok
- swing between “it’s fine” and “I can’t do this anymore”
This assessment breaks that loop by giving you a structured way to look at:
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Patterns (not just moments)
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Needs (not just complaints)
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Dealbreakers vs. repairable conflicts
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Willingness + ability (yours and theirs)
The numbers don’t lie:
Relationship uncertainty is common (and the stakes are real.)
Bottom line: “Stay or go” is not a easy choice but you don’t have to figure it out by white-knuckling it. Getting clarity with this assessment will help you move forward with confidence.
A Virtual Relationship Decision Evaluation & Support System
Your relationship feels off and nothing seems to be helping. Books tell you to communicate better. Friends tell you to leave. Therapy explores feelings. But very few tools help you answer:
Is this marriage realistically viable?
And..
What needs to happen do to make it joyful and fulfilling again?
This assessment is built to do just that. We built this system to give you an custom, unbiased, third-party, research-supported answer to these questions.
Plus, all the interpretation, research sources, help resources, exercises, practices, and more to help you make that final decision for yourself and move forward, for good.
For a limited time, you get access to EVERYTHING for FREE!
What’s inside the Stay or Go System
Get a sneak peak into a few of the things this system will evaluate about your relationship.
Safety & Respect
Do you feel emotionally and physically safe? Are boundaries respected?
Trust & Integrity
Honesty, reliability, transparency, and whether trust is repairable.
Emotional Responsiveness
Do you feel seen, supported, and cared for when it counts?
Conflict & Repair
Not whether you fight but whether you repair and return to connection.
Commitment & Investment
Are you both actively choosing the relationship (or just staying in it)
Shared Values & Life Direction
The big stuff: priorities, goals, family, lifestyle, meaning.
Intimacy & Affection
Emotional and physical closeness and whether you can talk about it safely.
Boundaries & Autonomy
Space, independence, privacy, jealousy, control dynamics.
Hi! I’m Dr. Merideth with Partner Lab. We build tools that help people make hard relationship decisions with clarity and self-respect.
Because “Should I stay or go?” is rarely one question. It’s usually ten questions hiding under one:
“Is this normal conflict or a pattern that won’t change?”
“Are we incompatible or just stuck in a bad loop?”
“Am I asking for too much… or not enough?”
“Is this relationship safe for my nervous system, my future, my kids?”
This assessment and system helps you answer those questions with structure, not fear.
I’ve been there. My team has been there. And we built this to help you in your journey.
Get the System Created by People Who’ve Been There
Make This Hard Decision as Easy as Possible.
After your purchase, you’ll receive your own custom link to your decision support system.
1. LOGIN TO YOUR PORTAL
Take the Stay or Go Assessment to get your custom results and scores across various validated measures of relationship vitality.
2. TAKE THE ASSESSMENT
As soon as you finish the initial assessment, you will be taken to your in-depth analysis of your relationship across various factors.
3. GET IMMEDIATE RESULTS
Use the suggested resources and programs to take your next step towards a more joyful, fulfilling relationship (and life).
4. TAKE THE NEXT STEP
Have questions? We got answers.
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It’s a structured, research-informed decision framework that helps you move from confusion → clarity → next steps.
You’ll assess patterns (not just moments), identify what’s repairable vs. incompatible, and leave with a practical plan for the next 30 days—whether you stay, separate, or stay with conditions for a time. -
Based on the patterns that you describe in your relationship, you will receive a Stay, Stay with Conditions, or Leave recommendation, plus a breakdown of your scores and options. This system is not designed to make this decision for you, but to give you additional context into your relationship from a new perspective.
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NO! This decision support system is not a substitute for therapy, legal counsel, financial advice, or medical advice from a professional. We encourage users to take what they learn here and use it in tandem with health, financial, or legal professionals.
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Your responses are private and used only to give you your results/resources. We do not sell your data in any way. If you choose to share with a partner or therapist, that’s up to you.
We provide discreet billing as well.
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You can reach us anytime via our contact page or email. We aim to respond quickly, usually within one business day.
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This doesn’t tell you “stay for the kids” or “leave for the kids.” Instead, it helps you make a grounded plan that considers:
your emotional climate at home,
the conflict environment,
co-parenting realities,
and what model of love and self-respect you want your kids to learn.
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This can help, especially if your mind goes blank during conflict or you second-guess yourself afterward.
It gives you a way to step back and evaluate:
the cycle you’re stuck in,
whether repair is realistic,
and what boundaries would be required for stability.
If you feel unsafe, threatened, controlled, or afraid of consequences for asserting boundaries, prioritize safety first.
This assessment is not a substitute for safety planning or local professional support. If you’re in danger, please contact local emergency services or a trusted domestic violence resource in your area.
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This system was designed to be streamlined, robust, and tactical—so you can get to a grounded “stay or go” direction within days, not months. Most people complete the core components in less than 30 minutes and leave with a clear next-step plan for the next 30 days.
If you’re looking for a more self-paced, comprehensive experience (with more space to process, integrate, and move through the decision over time), we recommend The Clarity Circle—a program built to help you answer stay or go through an experience, not just a system.
Don’t spend another day in Relationship Limbo. Get clarity now!
You’re don’t have to try to fix everything. You just have to answer one question well: What is the healthiest next direction for me and my loved ones?
Get the decision support system built to finally help you answer: “stay or go?” with confidence.
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Important Disclaimer & Safety Information
The Stay or Go Decision System and Assessment is provided for educational, informational, and self-reflection purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional services and does not establish a therapist-client, physician-patient, attorney-client, or any other professional relationship. Individual results vary. Any examples, frameworks, or outcomes described are provided for illustrative purposes and do not guarantee any specific result, relationship outcome, or life change.You are responsible for how you interpret and apply the content. Use your own judgment and consider professional support, especially when making major relationship, parenting, legal, housing, or financial decisions.
Not Medical, Mental Health, or Legal Advice
The content on this page or in the system is not a substitute for therapy, counseling, medical care, psychological treatment, crisis intervention, legal advice, or financial advice. Nothing on this page or within the Assessment should be interpreted as a diagnosis or treatment recommendation. If you have questions about your health, mental health, safety, legal rights, or finances, please consult a qualified professional.
Safety First
If you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency number (U.S./Canada: 911). If you are experiencing coercive control, threats, stalking, intimidation, physical violence, or fear of retaliation, prioritize safety planning and local support.
U.S. support resources:
988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline): call or text 988
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788
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